With Valentine’s Day just around the corner now’s the time to hone up on the necessary skills to make that special man’s tongue pant and heart beat faster for you.


Let Go

Sounds strange, I know, but here me out…letting go is veryimportant in three major ways for increasing a man’s desire for you. The first way is to let go of any desperation you have going on for the guy. Desperation isn’t attractive or seductive. If your need for a guy is messing with your head, and making you crazy, you need to sit yourself down and give yourself a good talking to. Desperation repels. Remember, human beings want what seems rare and special, and you’re not going to seem rare or special to a guy, no matter how sexy you try to be, if under it all you’re desperate for him to want you. You’ll either annoy him rather than attract him, or, if you do gain his lust and attention, your desperation will drive him away.

The second way to let go is to let go of your poor self-image. Basically you have to get over yourself. Ladies we drive men crazy (and not in a good way) when we berate our appearance and body, and don’t accept a man’s attention and compliments with grace and pleasure.

The third way to let go is sexually. If you want to increase a man’s desire for you, let go of your inhibitions and doubts and fears and clue in to your own true sexual nature. Most men want to please a woman sexually, and they find nothing more frustrating than a woman who either doesn’t know what she wants, or can’t get up the nerve to clue the guy in.


Sex It Up

Prince Charming isn’t going to discover you unless you discover yourself first! While over-the-top sexy is the fashion for many women these days, there are still too many women who spend their lives in frumpy sweaters and ill fitting jeans, or worse yet, never wear anything but a jogging outfit. There’s no better way to have a man look at you in a whole new light (meaning as a girl, not just a buddy) than dressing to impress. No, you don’t have to wear sweaters cut down to there, or your thong hanging out of low low low riding jeans. But you do need to dress up on occasion and remind him that you’re a woman. Men flirt with the sexy women for a reason – because they feel, by the woman’s attire, look, and attitude, they have a better chance of being accepted. So let go of your stern look, let your hair down, and try wearing a dress or a skirt now and then!


Pay Attention to the Small Details

Do you have to be super model skinny to attract a man’s desire for you? No. Do you have to be under 30? No. Do you have to have large breasts, a perfect ass, and blonde hair? Nope. Do you need to be dressed to the nines every time you step out in public? Nope. But you do need to care for yourself physically, as well as mentally, to show a man that you feel worthy of attention, both your own and his.

Men may not notice all of the things about a woman’s appearance that we’d like them to notice, but that doesn’t mean they don’t have their own special list of criteria they find important. No, a guy may not remember what dress you were wearing the other night when you met at the club, but guess what he will remember? Your underwear. That’s right, the one thing men comment to me about again and again is the impact lingerie has on them. They notice if a woman’s bra and panties don’t match, they notice if you’re under things have seen better days, and they really take notice if you’re wearing something especially sexy. Basically the kind of lingerie a woman wears tells the man how much she values her sex life. If you feel your worth spending the time to sexy, coordinated goodies he’s going to think you’re worth it too.

Keep yourself well groomed. Even if you can’t afford to go out and get a weekly mani & pedi you can take the time and effort to keep your hands and feet in good shape – and guess what? He’ll notice more that you keep your toes painted than your fingers. It may seem strange, but far more men than you’d think harbor a bit of a foot fetish.

Finally the state in which your nether regions are groomed needs to be discussed. If you want a man to spend a lot of oral time between your legs I highly recommend you get that region waxed, or keep it smooth yourself with a razor. Keeping your bikini line and more baby soft and smooth shows a guy that you not only care about his comfort, but like yourself enough to want him to see just what you’ve got going on!


Know What You Want Sexually

I touched on this a bit above, but let’s delve into this subject more fully. Ladies, you want to drive a man wild for you? Know what you want sexually – and let him know about it. Let him know what you’d like to try, what you’ve fantasized about, what you’ve dreamed of. Men get tired of feeling like the ones who are constantly in heat chasing women, let the guy know you have sexual thoughts too.

And if you really want to increase his desire let him know when he’s doing a great job in the sex department (or any department really). Give him plenty of positive reinforcement during and after. Moan, sigh and ask for more while you’re at it, and later on let him know that just the thought of what he was doing is making you want to do it all again.